welcome

This is the home page for Love and Lightning, an emotional repatterning service. I provide a professional friendship service designed to help you feel better and like yourself more. It is completely customized to you and your needs. A more detailed description of what happens here is at the bottom of this page.*

How it works: I welcome you into the service during a conversation by phone or video chat before scheduling. It is free. It usually lasts between 20 minutes and 2 hours, depending on how much you have to say and long it takes to feel comfortable together. You can either fill in the Welcome-In form in advance, or we will just go through the questions when we talk.

After that we’ll schedule a session. Sessions are 2 hours or more and are sliding scale.

Here you will find:

A pdf describing the service and how to participate.

A description of the sessions available, how they work, and covid precautions.

A pdf Welcome-In form with questions we will discuss during your Welcome-In. >>Download it<< then follow directions.

And a pdf containing client reviews, from Yelp, so you can hear what others have experienced with me (starts at page 2).

IF you have questions or are ready to schedule your Welcome-In, leave a voicemail at 541-525-0188 or drop me an email at loveandlightning[at]protonmail.com. Please no texts. My service isn’t great and sometimes I don’t get them.

Looking forward to meeting you. (( )) Mo

*Love and Lightning is an emotional repatterning service centered around talk and touch: Honest talk. Kind and careful touch. Since 1995, I have helped hundreds of people feel better and like themselves more by having experiences where they feel accepted, understood and appreciated.

Learning what you need to feel comfortable and confident is a key part of the process here. I help you recognize and do what is best for you, so that you move through life in ways that empower you. That is the emotional repatterning we do.

I have been an excellent listener and touch-based communicator most of my life. I have helped over 500 people upgrade their friendship with themselves. I help you drop into the present, feel valued, feel wonderful, and expand. The experiences you have with me help you befriend yourself and fuel your enthusiasm for living.

Our sessions always start with listening. I hear what you mean, and respond to that. I hear what is important to you, and respond to that. I hear your signals and show you that they matter; first through listening, then  through talking, then through touch. 

I am interested in you. I am curious about the being who is here to learn and grow. Having someone notice, value and respect you gives you momentum for liking and believing in yourself. It is a kind of magic. 

Feeling appreciated and supported changes your perspective. You stop prioritizing others’ needs in order to be liked. You move into saying and doing what is right for you. What you need becomes conscious. Unconscious patterns, like trying to give others what they need so they will give you what you need, become obvious. Letting go of them becomes easier.

 You learn to take a more direct route here. I constantly encourage you to go for what makes you feel happy and empowered. I am both a spaciously supportive friend and a fierce one who helps you respect and stand up for yourself. When you are defaulting to doing what I seem to want, I help you see it, and discover what you want. I help you build new patterns with your own experience at the center. I know how important it is to know what you want, and do what is good for you, and loyally help you develop those.

Our time together is centered on helping you feel comforable and confident. Helping you use your voice and choice to reveal your inner intelligence and create experiences that serve you. Confirming your value and the value of your perspective. Making room for you to express and explore what interests you. This is your time. This is pure positivity about who you are and who you can be.

Doing massage professionally for 25 years, I learned what humans need to relax. We need to express ourselves freely and fully, and have our feelings and meanings matter. We need to self-connect then other-connect. We need to deepen self-connection through other-connection; using interaction for our nourishment. We need to feel comfortable about focusing on our own experience, feel supported in going there, and feel honored for expressing what we find there. Our unique, personal perspective needs to be valued to grow.

To feel empowered by connecting, we need to establish self-connectedness before anything else. That rarely happens in random hookups or random massage sessions. Unconscious expectations and assumptions learned from culture and society turn us into generic fantasy characters who never fully meet. To fix this, we need to slow life down. We need to notice our inner processes. We need to be more sensitive to ourselves. Occupying our true selves, and using connection to reinforce our true selves, requires more honesty and vulnerability than most of us know how to lead with.

I do know how to lead with them. I have had thousands of chances to practice them. Touch is vulnerable, connecting is personal and I know how to make them comfortable. I know we are not just meeting as bodies, we are meeting as beings. I know how to support us as beings. I know what we need to feel comfortable and confident. Providing that makes our meetings a source of childlike happiness, enthusiasm and gratitude for being alive. Sharing purely positive richness resets us.

Building a relationship where you can be your full self, with your full spectrum of feelings and thoughts takes some time, but it sets a foundation for deep relaxation, trust and confidence. Your Welcome-In interview with me begins that process. It is free. You have time to share as much as you want and notice how I respond to you. You have time to ask me anything you want and notice how it lands with you. You have time to get to know me and see if you feel comfortable with me, before committing to anything. Every step of our interaction works this way: Get comfortable first, then share what feels right.

Learning what feels right is an essential life skill. This is a place to build that skill. A place where time is spacious and speed is slow. Emotional situations are the places where self-connection matters most. This is a place to become skillful and confident in those situations.

Connection is powerful. Touch is personal. I make them comfortable. I use their power to help you upgrade who you feel you are, and carefully maintain a relationship where it is safe to root and grow. 

I need to know you in order to serve you. You need to know me to feel comfortable communicating with me. Our professional relationship starts there; setting up a friendship were emotion can safely flow; setting up an interaction that is joyful and empowering; aligning with what is right for both of us. Feel welcome.